What Happened to You,
Not What’s Wrong with You
Did you know that we are biologically wired to seek out connection, understanding and soothing from our fellow human beings? When connection and understanding is not happening with others, we become dysregulated and engage in behaviors that, on the surface, may not make a lot of sense to us.
At Jenuine Courage Counseling, we believe that behavior makes sense once we understand what is happening behind the scenes. Some of your current behaviors might leave you confused. You know, on some level, that they aren’t helpful, and sometimes, even destructive, yet we can’t seem to change those behaviors. We persist in them. When we explore what has happened to you, we can learn how your behaviors might have been adaptive and encouraged survival.
Emotional and physical safety is one of the most important factors for a positive therapeutic experience where self- acceptance and change can happen at the same time. Together, we will work to create a relationship in which you feel heard and understood. I will provide a guiding hand along your journey to understand yourself and create the changes you most desire for your life.
Maybe you have people pleasing tendencies or perhaps you avoid conflict. Once you understand how your behaviors had a positive function in your life, and perhaps still do, it is so much easier to be compassionate towards yourself. We live in a society that tends to think if you have compassion for yourself, you will lose your competitive edge or become weak, but ironically, compassion is where change starts to happen.
There are too many people in the world today who decide to live disappointed rather than risk feeling disappointment.
– Brené Brown
At Jenuine Courage Counseling, we offer multiple services that serve individuals as well as couples and families. Below is a list of services in which there is specialized training and where our passion is particularly strong:
Daring Way work
All partners are incompatible. They have to learn to reach for each other. Fights are about emotional disconnection and the inability to reach for attachment needs — not about content.
– Sue Johnson
I am a mental health therapist with over 20 years of experience helping clients move through their crisis and challenges and life adjustments. I trained and certified as a Daring Way Facilitator, in the work of Brene Brown, a researcher who specializes in vulnerability and shame. I am also specially trained in exposure and response prevention, a highly evidenced based treatment for OCD and anxiety disorders.